Still Inching Along!

Still Inching Along!

Life doesn’t stand nonetheless.  I’ve discovered this the exhausting means over the previous 44 years. Many occasions I’ve needed life to pause for me till I used to be ‘ready’ for no matter had come my method.  I’ve needed to rewind the great occasions and quick ahead by means of the dangerous ones.  I’ve typically wished I might edit and delete elements of my life the best way I can a weblog submit.  However as Cinderella says….”A dream is a want your coronary heart makes.”  And whereas your coronary heart might need for a lot of issues that WILL come true….getting life to face nonetheless for you is NOT going to be one among them.

Life will, nevertheless, do that to you should you insist upon standing in place.

I’ve been making an attempt to face nonetheless on this journey for much too lengthy.   Believing the lie you could “pause” this.  And that it’ll wait so that you can begin ‘feeling in the mood’ once more.   However the fact is that this.   I’ve a life threatening consuming dysfunction.   I used to weigh 417 kilos and I truly had surgical procedure in 2011 as a result of I used to be so determined that it was going to kill me that I paid somebody out of my very own pocket to take away 85% of my abdomen as a result of I couldn’t cease consuming.

I paid them to take away over half of my abdomen.  And even THEN I nonetheless wrestle.  So do you assume it’s lifelike for me to assume that I can simply “pause” this concern.  That I can simply put it down on a shelf someplace and ‘revisit’ it later.  I’ve gained again over 100 kilos, okay??? Even AFTER surgical procedure.  I imply positive it’s been over 5 years and I’ve maintained a 150 pound loss.  However nonetheless…that’s not the purpose.   The purpose is THIS.   It’s slowly coming again on.  And never so slowly anymore.

As a result of for me this isn’t one thing I can ignore.  It’s not one thing that may simply ‘handle itself’.  That is my “thing”.   I don’t know what your “thing” is.  However that is mine.  All of us have one.  I’ve a good friend who likes purses.  She buys too lots of them.  She will’t cease.  She sees a handbag and she or he buys it.  It drives her husband loopy.  I’ve acquired one other good friend who smokes and may’t cease.  Even when the physician advised her she needed to.   So all of us have a ‘thing’.  In the event you don’t, congratulations.  However my ‘thing’ is meals.  And if I’m not actively managing that—then it’s managing me.

I’m both in management or I’m not.  I’m both gaining or dropping.  However what I’m not ever going to be doing is simply standing nonetheless.   To consider that may be a pipe dream.  It’s what many people do once we get simply so rattling uninterested in having to cope with it!!!  I need to be NORMAL.   Don’t you?? I need to be that one that can go purchase a pie and eat one piece and are available again in Three days and nonetheless see it there.   I need to be that one that can purchase Oreos and eat three then nonetheless discover them within the cupboard subsequent week.



The truth that I hold making an attempt so freaking exhausting to turn out to be that individual is tragic.  As a result of I’m actively collaborating in my very own demise just because I can’t settle for that the change produced in me will all the time be short-term if not cautiously watched and managed eternally.  I’m in search of a remedy when all I’ll ever actually discover is a every day reprieve.  A momentary delay.   A short lived cross that relies upon solely on my capacity to always remember that I can’t cease standing guard.  As soon as good habits are put in place, it feels automated.  Not like a chore.  But when I ever overlook that my peace from this craziness depends on executing these habits then I’m identical to that man by the river.   Kicked within the ass by a kangaroo face first in a pool of water gasping for air.

The issue I’ve skilled, although, is the will.  Ardour.  Motivation.  And I’ve been unable to regain the extent of momentum I as soon as had relating to weight reduction.  I maintain making an attempt to get it again.  The identical degree of motivation.   However the hearth appears to die out as quickly as I mild it.

“More flint!!”  I scream as I hold making an attempt to get the small flame to develop greater.  However the wind is stronger than my flame.  Simply blowing it out virtually from the beginning.

What I’m going by way of has little to do with head information.  I don’t want extra info on the science of meals.  I don’t have to learn one other ebook about vitamin.  Like many individuals, my drawback is psychological.   Psychological.  It’s not some lack of information relating to how I ought to eat.  Many individuals can strategy their weight points like a math drawback.  Stripped of emotion and boiled right down to a components.

Oh to be them!

My challenge with meals has all the time been 80% psychological and 20% bodily.   However I can’t deny the 20% that’s bodily have to be handled.

As soon as I understood how addictive sugar was, I had cracked a code that was essential to my success.  Sugar (particularly the chemically altered laboratory produced type we have now now) is as addictive as any drug.  Should you don’t know this then you’re at an obstacle.  You want that information.  Otherwise you gained’t stand an opportunity.  However as soon as you realize it then one thing else comes into play.  And that’s the psychological aspect of issues.  The psychology behind habit.  As a result of if you realize it’s addictive to you then going again to it has extra to do with one thing psychological than anything.

And that my associates is no easy method to crack.

I’ve what you’d name an addictive character.  Lots of people do.  Odds are in case you wrestle with overeating, alcohol, smoking or another conduct that requires self-regulation and management—you then may need an addictive character.  Even when it’s simply ever so slight.  Many individuals are excessive functioning addictive personalities.  They could do one or two issues excessively however they handle to regulate it simply sufficient that they will nonetheless get by.  It maybe causes them issues right here and there however it’s not life threatening.  Solely when it turns into intrusive to their every day life and begins inflicting self destruction does it out of the blue get termed an ‘addiction’.

I do know lots of people in heavy debt who wouldn’t view themselves as hooked on purchasing.  I do know lots of people who overeat who wouldn’t contemplate themselves as having some degree of meals habit.   Perhaps they do and perhaps they don’t.  It’s actually not for me to guage.  However on the subject of myself, I do know.  And there’s little question that I’ve a character nicely suited to extremes.

So what I do know is that this.  I ought to keep away from sugar.  If I don’t, I’ll mild a completely new type of hearth inside me.  And this one wants no additional flint.  The wind just isn’t robust sufficient to place it out.  And as soon as lit, it spreads like wildfire.  For me that flame is sugar.  And as soon as ingested,  a starvation change flips inside my physique that isn’t ever simply put to relaxation.  I’ve been struggling greater than essential to reduce weight for the previous few years virtually solely as a result of I’m consuming/consuming sugar that I shouldn’t be.   No the place close to to the extent that I did at over 400 kilos.  Not in a binge consuming escapade and never even day-after-day.  However in a haphazard method?  An unconscious grabbing with out considering?  A reintroduction of dangerous habits and meals/drink gadgets that I do know set off me?


And if THAT might get beneath management, all the things else would fall into place a lot extra shortly.

However have I been capable of do it but? NO.  And whereas I’ve gone chilly turkey prior to now, I haven’t had a ton of luck with it recently.   However as an alternative of giving up, I’m going to maintain making an attempt.  Hold inching alongside.  Figuring out that chilly turkey sugar detox IS the quickest approach to get out of that hell however having failed miserably at it a number of occasions–one thing is best than nothing.

I’ve just lately adopted THIS mentality:


The identical is true of train.  I might technically achieve this rather more however my motivation has been so missing that I’ve finished nothing in any respect for much too lengthy.   And now we’ve come to this previous month.   The place having had zero success within the space of getting myself to train, I made a decision to set the bar low.  SO LOW  I might actually journey over it and FALL ahead. However no less than that’s going FORWARD! I imply set these objectives sufficiently small…..set that bar low sufficient…and also you WILL succeed.  You virtually gained’t be capable of NOT succeed if the objective is sufficiently small.  And I suppose in case you’re me and you may’t get your butt in gear—that’s simply precisely what must be executed!

It’s been about Three weeks now since I made a decision to attempt to pull this sh*t present collectively. (Excuse my french!)  And I’ve to confess I’m stunned I’m nonetheless at it!  I imply let’s be trustworthy.  I figured this might simply be one other shot at midnight.  One other missed try.  One other failed reset.  However shock of my life! I’m nonetheless on the sport board!

Setting the bar so low it’s virtually underground is probably not for everybody nevertheless it positive helps me! I had one way or the other forgotten that small victories MUST be celebrated like milestones and extra time have to be labored in your psyche if a rut goes to be crawled out from.  The previous few years it appears I’ve carried out little greater than cry the blues and really feel depressed.  Virtually all the things I’ve tried appears to have failed each in weight reduction and actual life.  Relationships haven’t gone as I had hoped with individuals in my life.  Private and professional issues have gone haywire.  Typically I nonetheless assume I’m the goal of somebody’s prank to screw with a random individual only for enjoyable.

Still driving this rental automotive ready for my van to be repaired.  Still experiencing different points already beforehand talked about with no main enhancements.  However I’ve determined to fret much less, pray extra and FORCE constructive ideas into my mind like a mother shoving untasty drugs into her youngster’s mouth ‘for your own good’!!

I was so constructive.  I used to consider all the guarantees.  However life can pile on the crap, can’t it?? And one factor after one other typically begins to persuade you that perhaps it actually ISN’T going to be okay??? Perhaps it’s truly going to only worsen?!  I’ve cried a lot I want Gatorade to rehydrate my physique however I in all probability shouldn’t drink it due to the sugar!! So the place can we go from right here!


On with the present!

I made a decision Three weeks in the past to start out strolling once more.  I’ve gone again to Leslie Sansone who I extremely advocate to anybody who struggles with train both as a result of mobility points OR motivation points.  I downloaded the Every day Stroll app which I’ve been utilizing fairly a bit.  However I even have gone again to one in every of my favourite movies of hers that has all walks divided into 10 minute segments.



I’ve been utilizing it each day.   At first I might solely make myself do 10 minutes and the truth that these walks all finish at 10 minutes…makes you are feeling completed.  I imply you didn’t give up, proper?? IT ENDED!! You accomplished it! YAHOO!!! That is the sort of constructive reinforcement my mind must really feel like I did one thing ‘good’!

10 Minutes is Do-In a position.   10 minutes shouldn’t be even 15.  10 minutes makes me assume perhaps I gained’t die.

10 minutes is the place it’s at!


If that’s an excessive amount of, 30 seconds works too.  I’ve began there earlier than and I might begin there once more if I wanted to.  No matter you’re unmotivated, unwilling self will do—-That’s the place the bar will get set!

Because the previous few weeks have passed by, my motivation has been rising fueled by the small success I had the day earlier than.  10 minutes became 11.  And 11 into 12.  Now I’m strolling 2-Three miles a day AND having fun with it!!!!!


I do know…I do know….I make some extent to continuously say how a lot I HATE train.  However I all the time overlook that I sort of don’t.  At the very least not strolling.  As soon as the strolling behavior is reestablished, I truly start to sit up for it (principally).  I nonetheless need to pressure myself into the primary 10 minutes many occasions BUT as soon as I get going I often hit my groove.

I hope most of you understand me nicely sufficient by now to typically in your thoughts say….she doesn’t actually really feel that method.  She’s simply in a crappy temper! As a result of I really feel dangerous typically once I return and skim my very own writing (with a clearer mindset) and see the miserable drivel I’ve written.

However I actually and really with all my coronary heart BELIEVE at occasions that I hate and despise train.  That I all the time have and all the time will.  That I’ve by no means not even for ONE second felt any enjoyment from it.  And that nothing will ever change that.   NOT EVER EVER!

Please insert image of screaming toddler having a tantrum

Once I speak like this, I consider it on the time.   However now that I’ve been strolling once more for the previous Three weeks AND even wanting ahead to it, I keep in mind yet again….that what I typically consider about myself and train is just simply not true.

That’s a disordered thought sample.  A cognitive distortion that many individuals fall into.  Polarized considering that appears a bit too excessive.

I’m well-known for this!! What they name “all or nothing”, “black and white” considering.   Everytime you hear “always” or “never” you possibly can just about be certain we’ve entered that realm!  So whereas I actually consider that I hate train—have ALWAYS hated train—and that I’ve by no means (not even for ONE second felt the slightest little bit of positivity from doing it)—the truth is that’s simply not true.  I hate lots of it.  However I don’t hate ALL types of it.  It’s arduous for me to keep in mind that every morning although.  Just like the film Groundhog day I need to begin once more.  However with sufficient time and days strung in a row, I can discover my method again.  I can reawaken to the truth that not solely do I not hate all types of train however actually I may even take pleasure in it.

We simply need to be very cautious to not fall into that lure of lies the thoughts will inform us to maintain us down.

 So I’m doing the Leslie walks each day.  However I used to be fighting the app as a result of it solely performs on my telephone and the display is just too small.  My son found out how you can get my app to play from my telephone onto the pc.  He’s so sensible!! If it’s essential to know, it’s executed via quicktime participant.  You simply plug your telephone in and open Quicktime.  You hit “new recording” and it’ll begin enjoying no matter is in your telephone onto the pc display.  You modify settings for sound to your telephone after which you’ll be able to hear it too.  Good factor I’ve my son round to assist me with issues!

I actually began with ONLY the aim to stroll no less than 10 minutes a day.   And no meals objectives in any respect.   However as I’ve had this day by day success at reestabling my morning walks,  I’ve discovered myself turning into motivated to eat more healthy.  I even began consuming water once more.  One other factor I had let go.   Nevertheless it’s not pressured.  It’s not even a aim.  It’s simply one thing I’m doing as a result of I need to.  Not as a result of I’ve to.   Isn’t it bizarre how deciding to pressure myself to do one thing for less than 10 minutes out of the day has led to different issues?

This can be a precept that’s so necessary and but the primary one I’ll overlook when going off monitor.   Motivation is NOT required.   So when you have none, excellent news!! You don’t want it.   Motivation WILL ignite itself spontaneously if you obtain a small aim of some sort repeatedly.  Even when that aim you’re engaged on just isn’t in the identical space.

Now let’s face it.  I wasn’t motivated to do 10 minutes both so I gained’t lie.  There’s some sheer drive of will concerned right here.  You must make your self do SOMETHING.  However what that ‘something’ is nearly doesn’t matter.  I’ve seen this fact performed out again and again in my life.   But it’s so arduous to consider it’s going to work that even after having skilled it first hand I nonetheless discover it arduous to consider.

After the previous few weeks of strolling, I’ve develop into motivated to stroll extra.   After having reset that behavior and now gotten to the place I’m even wanting ahead to it, hope has grown a tiny bit the place it was missing.   After which I discovered myself forgetting one morning to get breakfast tacos.


This can be a behavior I’ve fallen into which has derailed me enormously with meals.  From the beginning of the day, I’ve instantly flipped the meals change on a bit too early by downing Three or four tacos.  Now it’s on (mentally) and all day I take into consideration meals.  However by having very small success with strolling every single day for the previous few weeks, I’ve naturally discovered myself not being drawn to the taco truck.

YAHOO!  So I then felt motivated sufficient to set an ACTUAL objective.  Which was…no breakfast tacos within the morning.  I do know that’s a tough and quick one.  Not even actually leaning into it with like…2 days this week no tacos?? Nevertheless it’s okay as a result of I used to be feeling it.  I knew that I had it in me to forego tacos within the morning so I did.  And after every week or so of that, I felt motivated to make a brand new objective.  And it’s to have actual management over my mornings.

As a result of I could also be inching alongside however I’ve to maintain inching.  Making little further objectives as I transfer alongside.

So I’ve divided my day into four segments.

6 am- 10 am

10 am- 2 pm

2 pm- 6 pm

6 pm – 10 pm

These are nearly my waking hours.   For the primary four hours, I’ve determined to go no-sugar.   For me, I do higher with some degree of intermittent fasting in the course of the day.  It’s not an actual quick as a result of I do drink protein shakes throughout that point.  Nevertheless it’s four hours of simply consuming water, espresso and/or sugar managed protein shakes.    Most of you realize that that is the crux of my principal routine to get off sugar and get management.   I simply haven’t been capable of do it full pressure.   However after Three weeks of strolling day by day and discovering myself slowly gravitating naturally to raised meals selections—I’m able to go for it.

So for the previous 5 days, I’ve had that four hour window of my morning again underneath management.   And whereas I haven’t essentially kicked butt in all different areas, I’m making progress.  I’m recreating that morning behavior of management and it’s making me really feel like hope has grown again into some areas the place the land was dry and sparse!!!!

Progress replace!   Three weeks in the past I used to be right here

2 weeks in the past right here…

Final week I used to be right here…


And at this time I’m HERE!


It’s solely 2.four kilos misplaced however I’ll TAKE IT!!!

This inchworm continues to be within the recreation!

This implies I’ve formally misplaced 10 POUNDS



As an alternative of gaining I’m dropping once more.   And we should pause right here to offer some degree of highlighting to the truth that that is A BIG DEAL.  I’ve been gaining 10 kilos a month for a number of months IN A ROW.  So for me to truly LOSE 10 kilos in a month by not even utterly pulling myself collectively 100%–fairly superb.  Simply inchworming alongside right here making an attempt to get my marbles again within the jar separately and it’s working.   I’m nonetheless screwing loads of issues up however I’m a bit extra up to the mark than I used to be final month!

This week whereas I’ve not made quick and positive plans for what I’m doing in my lunch and dinner life, I’ve naturally begun going again to the issues that labored for me earlier than.

Greek salad  (I’ve a greek yogurt dressing right here.  Poured on too thick however small steps individuals!)

Baked hen drumsticks.  And an entire package deal that I purchased was solely Three.33 cents!!!   (Ranch on the aspect)



So progress is progress!!! And I’m pleased to say for as soon as, nevertheless sluggish it might be, we’re shifting within the right path!

I depart you with footage of my youngsters making gingerbread homes.  Fortunately they’re for seems to be and never consuming.  I’ve by no means been tempted to eat a single sweet that comes with these gingerbread home kits.  It’s all very arduous and…NOT chocolate.  SAFE!

I can’t lie! My son’s gingerbread home was my favourite!

I hope your week has been going nicely !!!

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